Every journey is different and usually loaded with obstacles and other pitfalls. It does not matter if you are trying to lose weight, start a new business or go to school or college. As soon as you have a goal that you are working toward, everyone will have an opinion and crazy things will start to happen. Seems to be Murphy’s Law. Who is Murphy anyway that causes all this chaos?
Weight loss in particular seems to really bring out the craziness in those around us. Our family and friends try to get us to just “taste” this cake or they tell us that we don’t really have to take that walk after dinner. How you respond to these obstacles will determine your success.
People in general are uncomfortable with change including changes they see in others – even family. As you begin to change your lifestyle, your family and friends may think they will be left behind. In turn they do their best to try to keep you right where you are. It may not even be intentional on their part but they want you to stay in that place where THEY are comfortable.
There are many reasons that people try to sabotage others but generally at the top of the list is that ugly green-eyed monster called jealousy even if they are not aware of it themselves. People that tend to react negatively to your weight loss and fitness successes are generally not happy with their weight and health. (I do want to mention that not all negative reactions stem from jealousy but that’s another topic. From me to you – say no to the mean girls in your life.)
What happens next is totally up to you. How you respond and deal with these obstacles will determine whether you are successful or whether you will need to keep starting over. Some of us will just shrug our shoulders and move on. It’s not that we don’t care what our loved ones think. It’s that we know we must work on getting healthier FOR us and our families. We see the prize at the end of the journey and nothing will stop us from moving forward until we reach it.
For others, however, guilt may set in as comments that are made make their way into our brains. We feel awful to tell mom that we don’t want to try that cake she baked or to tell our friends that we are going to the gym right after work and skipping happy hour.
The thing to remember is that this is your health and fitness journey. If these people are important to you and in your life, take a few moments to sit down and talk to them. They may not be aware of what they are doing and how it may be affecting you. Old habits are hard to break and they may want things to just remain the same. On the flip side of the coin, if these people are not important in your life, remove them from your life or limit the time you spend with them.
The best way I have found to deal with these type of people is to close the door as you would someone going door to door trying to sell you something. You either don’t answer the door or if you do, you simply say “no thank you” and close the door. YOU are in control and YOU decide who you will or will not open the door to. You do have the right to make that choice. I’ve personally removed toxic people from my life many times and let me tell you, life is so much easier without their issues and drama. Keep moving forward. You GOT this!
To your health,